Friday, March 27, 2009

Back in the "limbo" saddle again!

I have been taking my time in going "public" with our current situation. It's hard to share a story that has multiple complexities. It is hard to share a story that has the doctor puzzled and unsure. Words are hard to come by when all you want to do is scream and cry, but doing so would not solve or fix anything. Ultimately, I have no control over the outcome. Despite my desire to plan every thing to the finest detail, He has decided to show me that some things are out of my control.

To many, it appears as though I've got it all together. In some respects, this is true. In many other aspects, this is far from the truth. Our latest struggle has been a hurdle for me. A big hurdle.

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Flashback:
August 2006 - My body became out of whack after having our third child. Brought it to the doctor's attention and was told not to worry because it could be "normal." I know my body and knew it wasn't normal. Little did I know what my un-normal self was in for.

End of February 2007: Positive home pregnancy test. We were elated to be expecting. Early blood tests revealed I had low progesterone. To sustain any pregnancy, levels need to be above 10, ideally above 20. Mine was 8.8. Doctor was slightly hesitant I would make it to the 2nd trimester. Early ultrasound provided relief as the baby was healthy and dated 2 weeks further along than originally thought.

August 2007: Had some spotting and beginnings of preterm labor.

End of October 2007: A healthy, nearly 10 pound baby!

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And now, we are back in our limbo state.

It began with a positive pregnancy test. I had a beta blood test (which measures the quantity of free HCG. HCG is the hormone present during pregnancy) later the same day. Results: Progesterone level at a 5.1, which is very low. Usually that would indicate I hadn't ovulated, but the same test results proved otherwise.) Immediately started on medication. Thank goodness for good insurance because those things are expensive.

Two days later, another trip to the lab (with all four children in tow), for another beta test.

And again two 1/2 days later. By this time, there was definitely extra support from above. The children were perfectly behaved. They knew the drill: come in, sit down, and don't wrestle with each other touch anything.

And again two days later.

And again three days later.

And again two days later.

And again two days later.

And again three days later.

I was relived to hear that the doctor gave up with the testing. It was emotionally exhausting playing the role of a human pincushion. I became numb to the fact I was still bruised from prior pokes, and yet they were sticking me yet again. 1/3 of the time, my HCG numbers would double as they were supposed to, the other 2/3 they would not. On Wednesday, I went in for an ultrasound and things went relatively well.

What we don't know: Lots! We've been told every thing from miscarriage, various chromosomal abnormalities and/or defects, perfectly healthy baby, and every thing in-between.

As of now, what we do know: I should have realized how blessed I was to be so worry-free with the first three pregnancies. There is no longer the simplicity of getting a positive pregnancy test and then seeing the OB 8 weeks later. If it weren't for modern medicine, I would not be able to artificially sustain these last two pregnancies.

Prior to the ultrasound, the doctor said it was a 50/50 chance of going either way in terms of viability. But, in our favor, a heartbeat was detected. It is healthy for the gestational size, but is measuring a few days behind. It is flirting with the healthy/unhealthy growth rate border.

Right now, we remain in limbo; we may have an addition to the family in late fall, or we may not. We are living one day at a time. While we are uncertain of our future and what it will look like, the Lord's plan is not so uncertain. He knows my husband and I willingly accepted this hand of cards before we came to earth.

Now if only I could catch a glimpse into the reasons why. :)

9 comments:

Danika said...

Congratulations! I will keep you in my prayers.

Meet the Dubreuils said...

Congratulations! I wish you all the best. You are quite the woman to be going thru all this and doing it wonderfully with your four little boys in tow.

Stricker Family said...

Wow you guys are in our thoughts and prayers. I pray that if it is God's Will for this precious little addition come into the world then let it be and if not may he give you the strength to deal with the loss. I wish you guys all the best. Lots of love

Reggs said...

Juuuulia! Felicitaciones a todos! I'm sorry it hasn't been a smooth road for you. I am really impressed with your faith and positive attitude. I will definetly keep you in my thoughts and prayers and tell that little baby to hang on!!
Love you guys!

sandi said...

I hope.. I hope! all will be well with you and the baby. Big hugs! You are in our prayers!

Katrina said...

Oh - I think you should have told everyone the story 500 times! It gives you something to do when you really feel like you're going to go stark raving mad!!!

Keep the faith girl. Things will work out, thinks will work out. :D

April Cavanaugh said...

I'll be praying for you, Julia. You are so strong and an amazing inspiration to me. God has you, your family and this little spirit in his hands. Hugs!

Older and Wisor said...

Maybe it's a girl and she's starting with the drama early...

Congratulations.

You'll be in our prayers.

Pollock Family said...

So you should be friends with one of my friends here. She found out (again I'm not good at medical specifics) that the baby she was carrying was absolutely only going to live at most one day. The doctors told her she could abort if she wanted to... she declined. She carried little Davey for the WHOLE 9 months, went into labor on her own and held him for minutes before he died! Ok so I'm not saying that has anything to do with your situation, but I just thought about it and thought you might like to know you're not alone. Good luck.